Daily Archives: 05/31/2008

Race in America

(Community Matters) Is the American Dream about a house, a car and two chickens in the pot OR about peace, health, happiness and enjoying equitable opportunities? Do most see Senator Obama as a black man or as a muti-cultural American with whom we can all identify?

Several members of our church (St. James Episcopal) gathered today to discuss Senator Obama’s march 18 speech on race delivered in response to the initial Reverend Wright controversy. We launched by watching a video of his speech, many following along reading the NYTimes transcript.

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If you haven’t watched the speech in its entirety, I certainly recommend it. Or read the transcript here.

Our good friends, Rev. Bill Adams and Judge Lora Livingston, facilitated the session attended by 60+ people, all but a handful, St. James’ members. This session follows two others held during the last two years and organized around Eric Law’s book, The Wolf Shall Dwell with the Lamb: A Spirituality for Leadership in a Muticultural Community.

The community of St. James Episcopal is muticultural and inclusive. Founded in the 1940s by six Episcopal African American families not allowed to worship at St. David’s, today the church is approximately 40% black, 40% white and 20% brown. When Steven started attending 19 years+ ago, he was one of a handful of white members. By the time I joined 10 years later, there were probably fifty or so white members. Today, there is also a sizeable GLBT presence and many mixed race families (either through child adoption or interracial marriage).

We’re proud of our multicultural, inclusive community, and we have to work hard at it. Maybe 8 years ago, we met for prayer & discussion sessions every week for 12 weeks working through the increased visibility of gay/lesbian couples. We have been working on race and cultural identity issues forever, especially in the last few years as growth among whites has surpassed that of black members.

Some of the lines that most stand out from Senator Obama’s speech on race:

  • this campaign – to continue the long march of those who came before us, a march for a more just, more equal, more free, more caring and more prosperous America
  • a story that has seared into my genetic makeup the idea that this nation is more than the sum of its parts – that out of many, we are truly one
  • the comments that have been made and the issues that have surfaced . . . . reflect the complexities of race in this country that we’ve never really worked through – a part of our union that we have yet to perfect
  • most working- and middle-class white Americans don’t feel that they have been particularly privileged by their race
  • it’s a racial stalemate we’ve been stuck in for years
  • what we have already achieved gives us hope
  • [providing opportunity] requires all Americans to realize that your dreams do not have to come at the expense of my dreams

Helpful discussion by all followed the video. Conversations about limitations of the lens through which we see others’ experiences – our own lens and experiences altering (or distorting) the perspectives we ascribe to others’. Much conversation about how radical listening and the development of trust are required to see on the other side.

Identity politics. I asked black members of today’s conversation to share their perspective of Obama’s candidacy. Wide range of responses from Obama as an MLK-like, prophetic figure, to anger that I focused on his black ethnicity when he’s one-half white. Also, the perspective that his color doesn’t matter, it’s his words. I wasn’t able to delve deeper into the perspective that solicited anger.

I loved today’s gentle and calm perspective of a woman I don’t really know but who called me last week to learn more about my involvement in the Obama campaign. Today she noted that there’s a little bit of all of us in Obama – says people connect with different parts of him. She advised us to pay attention to the little bits that make up his whole.

A recollection about reading Scott Malcomson’s One Drop of Blood: The American Misadventure of Race on the importance of race in USA national identity. And, specifically recalling discussion that whites’ fear loss of their race – given the predominance other genes in progeny.

Also discussion about the American Dream, whether today’s definition is an environmentally unsustainable one focused on material goods or a global one focused on peace, health & happiness.

I left more confused than when I arrived. I don’t understand calls for color blindness or for not seeing Obama as African American. I agree what he says is what’s most attractive. And, I believe the idea of electing a black president – the best candidate among all in the field no doubt – is hugely appealing to a great many Americans. I believe his race doesn’t matter to some African Americans. And, I believe it matters to most.

Marylou Adams

(Community Matters) update: Marylou is back in the hospital. Currently in surgery to remove a cyst in her head. She has viral meningitis. They don’t believe the two are related. She’s requested no guests.

Home Sweet Home

(Community Matters) Doesn’t matter from where or how long, always good to be home. Michael and I returned from Houston early evening, in time to join Steven and my in-laws for dinner at our favorite bistro, Chez Nous. This morning, Steven and I took the cars for hail damage inspection and claim settlement. In a bit, headed to St. James Episcopal for a conversation on race and religion. This session was planned in response to the Rev. Wright controversy but was delayed because of Ed Adams’ death. I just learned by email yesterday that Mary Lou Adams had been in the hospital. Lora Livingston confirmed and said she’s out and at home. I’ll learn more this morning.

We don’t know much more about Michael’s lymphoma now than before we went to MD Anderson. We know it’s follicular. We want to know if its small cell, large cell or a combination and if a combination, in what percentages. We also want to know to what stage the cancer has progressed. Treatment options will be determined by the stage and subtype. Whether we consider treatments in Houston or Austin largely determined by both as well. Or, in unlikely event its further progressed than anticipated, whether Houston or somewhere else (perhaps Seattle) for clinical trials if applicable and qualify. M went through all the tests these last four days. We’re returning for the reports and consults Thursday am. Robert is joining us again and we’re planning evening prior at my family’s ranch where mom’s promised big home cooked meal.

We have who most consider the very best lymphoma oncologist at MDA, Dr. Peter McLaughlin. And, we’d like to identify the very best lymphoma oncologist in Austin (if any ideas, please forward), even better if privileges at MDA, in case M selects a path of treatment in Austin (which is likely for a vanilla regiment).

Sorta haunting that I’m returning home to lots of email and conversation from CAFB/CARE Communities/Marion about the permanent food program for women with breast cancer and their families, meetings on Monday re: LAF, ACS, BCS cancer patient navigation systems in Austin, an NHI patient mapping project and meetings about joining the Austin affiliate Susan Komen for the Cure board. EF staff retreat on Monday, after an ACF investments committee meeting. Social ventures fund planning and a PeopleFund executive committee meeting on Tuesday. A goddaughter’s elementary graduation Wednesday as well as an exciting meeting with Michael and a potential director to talk about producing Michael’s play this fall/winter. Gotta get all this and fundraising done for our June 11 Obama event prior to Houston and prior to the launch of the Democratic State Convention on Friday to which I’m a delegate. Oh yeah, we’re hosting a family driving up for the convention. yikes, gotta get on that too. Hmm, not to mention joining Steven in Vienna next Monday. Shoot and there are emails from E&Y, need to work up schedules and docs next week for EF ’07 audit starting at the end of the month. I’m not sure how all this is gonna work!