Daily Archives: 01/02/2011

(Community Matters) The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage, in today’s NYTimes.

Interesting study about how couples who help sculpt each other in ways that help each attain their valued goals – the Michelangelo effect. I’ve often spoken about how choosing a mate is in part a selfish process. Yeah, yeah, of course the titillation of sexual & physical attraction, whit and chemistry but that doesn’t always signal sustainability. Knowing that you will help “complete” each other, foster, encourage and enable each others’ personal goals & aspirations . . . I’ve believed that’s what makes for sustainability. This article supports and better describes this concept.

I still remember a straight friend once saying her husband was a little jealous of us, kinda wanted to be a gay man, because who wouldn’t want to be an affluent gay couple with no kids, spending every day self actualizing.

(Community Matters) this AAS story about Cleigh’s house burning down and he and his cousin being rushed to the hospital. We spoke with a mutual friend just a bit ago who reached Cleigh and his care taker. Evidently Cleigh and his cousin mostly suffered smoke inhalation and expect to be released from the San Antonio hospital later today. House in uninhabitable but Cleigh’s evidently received many offers for help and places to stay.

(Community Matters) Haiti Suffers Year of Crisis with Nobody in Charge, from the Huff Post

I’m looking forward to seeing Anne Hastings, CEO of Fonkoze who has lived in Haiti for 16+ years, next week in NY as well as another friend who’s soon relocating to Haiti to oversee finances & development for an international NGO. Thinking I may schedule another trip to survey progress (or lack thereof) since July – perhaps in March or April, definitely after the chaos of their presidential election.