(Community Matters) The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage, in today’s NYTimes.
Interesting study about how couples who help sculpt each other in ways that help each attain their valued goals – the Michelangelo effect. I’ve often spoken about how choosing a mate is in part a selfish process. Yeah, yeah, of course the titillation of sexual & physical attraction, whit and chemistry but that doesn’t always signal sustainability. Knowing that you will help “complete” each other, foster, encourage and enable each others’ personal goals & aspirations . . . I’ve believed that’s what makes for sustainability. This article supports and better describes this concept.
I still remember a straight friend once saying her husband was a little jealous of us, kinda wanted to be a gay man, because who wouldn’t want to be an affluent gay couple with no kids, spending every day self actualizing.
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